Learning to truly love yourself as you are, flaws and all is no mean feat. With the constant bombardment of cultural influences, and a society that tells us that our worth is found in status, youth, money, attractiveness, its no wonder our inner critics flood us with feelings of lack.
You might as well start loving yourself, because you have to live here anyway and doing so wracked with self loathing is no fun at all. Make a choice to start loving yourself more each day.
But isn’t loving myself ego?
Loving your true self is what we are talking about here, not the part of you that is worried about what other people think of you. The ego part of your mind is what was created through things you were told and how others reacted to you from an early age. Ego keeps you from knowing your true self. So no, loving your true self is not ego.
An efficient way of learning to love yourself is through positive affirmations. This means repeating certain phrases and words to yourself or even giving yourself compliments. It can be hard at first, especially if you are saying things that you don’t quite believe, “You can fake it til you make it” in this case.
Some of my favourite affirmations are:
I am at peace with all that has happened, all that is happening and all that will happen.
My thoughts are filled with positivity and my life is plentiful with prosperity.
My body is healthy, my mind is brilliant, my soul is tranquil.
Your thoughts are very powerful and your subconscious mind listens to everything you say, so you should be careful what you are saying to it.
An even more powerful way of reprogramming your thoughts is to do these affirmations in a mirror, you can call this Mirror play. At first you will feel like a right idiot talking to yourself in the mirror but do this every day and watch your life change.
You can make the task easier by talking to yourself as if you’re talking to one of your friends, give yourself a little smile, “how are ya kid! You look boss today!”Repeat until talking to yourself feels like second nature!
On top of this try these tips:
Don’t compare yourself to others – there will always be someone greater or lesser than yourself if you look hard enough.
Set boundaries – you teach people how to treat you. Don’t allow people to step over.
Deal with old wounds – the energy of the old emotions may still reside within you unless you find a way of release.
Forgive yourself and others – I forgive those who have harmed in my past and i know peacefully detach from them.